Friday, January 22, 2010
I have issues
So I've been doing some thinking as of late. I've been looking around at my friends and where they are in life, and where I am. I recently noticed a trend in my life, that i figured out isn't a normal trend in the lives of anyone else around me. I have a problem. It isn't just a quick fix problem either. The first part to my problem is: I want to get married. Yes, I realize most people wouldn't necessarily consider this a problem, but trust me, it ties in. The second part of my problem is: When I'm dating a guy, and he starts to try to get close to me, or talk about marriage, I RUN in the other direction. I completely end the relationship. Now do you see my problem? If I were a disease, I would be considered an "autoimmune disease" because I'm doing this to myself. The other part of my problem? How in the heck do I go about fixing it? I realize that most are gunna say, "oh just tell the guy to take it slow" which is great advice...but the guys do take it slow. Even after dating for several months, even bringing up the thought of a future...and they're done for in my book. It's not anything that they are doing wrong, it is so natural to talk about the future with someone you've been dating for several months and everything is going great. unless of course you are dating Marissa Walker. I am so baffled by myself. I have honestly wondered what I should do, so this is my cry for help. I need some serious advice. Leave me a comment and tell me what you think I should do to try to fix my problem.
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7 comments :
Marissa! i miss seeing your bright face around Rexburg.
I have the same problem, but I've come to the realization that when the right guy does come along, leaving will be the last thing on my mind. I don't think I'll even realize that I stuck through the "future talk" until long after it's happened. I think your desire to leave when it comes up is probably part of you saying "it's not right. get out before its too late." so my advice is to just stick with it, keep dating. My uncle told me the other night that when its supposed to happen and its the right person, everything will fall together without effort. (He gave me hand motions to demonstrate, but I'm sure you get my point.) You're beautiful and deserve nothing but the best, don't settle for anything less.
When it's the right guy......you won't run! :}
okay... this is what happened to me. i think i already talked to you about this. i would do the same thing. the difference with jordan was that in the VERY beginning, i knew he was the one i would marry. and theeennn i let myself get freaked out and run away. before, i didnt ever really feel with any of the other guys that i had known right away. it goes back to the same old...when you meet him, you'll just know.
so, when that does happen, and you just know. DONT FORGET IT. because you can forget. or satan will try and push other things into your mind to make you think otherwise. when it happened to me, i just had to realize the feelings i had before we're real. and i wouldnt let myself forget it by letting fear in. because that's exactly what satan wants you to do. i hope that makes sense. elder holland has a good talk about this. it's called 'cast not away therefore your confidence"
link:
http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?hideNav=1&locale=0&sourceId=9da4196b5a1eb010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&vgnextoid=f318118dd536c010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD
i love you mariss. and it will all come in time. i know it. he's waiting around the corner.
okay so that link didnt work. but it's on the church website.
k. i had a friend like this- she'd posion the relationship before it even got serious...so at least you're giving guys a chance. i think it happens when you swear it off...(at least that worked for most of me and my siblings) when you stop worrying about it, or are "finished" with guys- bam! I wanted to always take things SLOW...but then every guy just bugged me in some way, and then i'd just bail...almost bored. so when i met my hubby, (which i didn't like at first) he always put me on my toes and to say the least, i've been there ever since. everything happened REALLY fast, which i didn't think i'd EVER like...but hey- sometimes what we aren't looking for will hit us like a ton of bricks and knock us on our patooties. good luck my dear!
OH I KNOW I KNOW! ok so i did this...you know i had this same issue. until...justin. you're problem isn't autoimmune disease, you little nurse you, its just that you haven't met the right one. seriously i promise on my life...you can have my first born if i'm wrong...you just subconciously KNOW that it isn't right. and when it is you'll be surprised how easy it goes after that...
When Mr. Right comes along, you'll know. Don't sweat it...it'll happen when it's right! There's someone saved just for you and preparing for the time you'll meet.
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